New Year 2010 – my so called resolutions

This is something I wrote for last  New Year’s resolutions and I thought I should share it again….these were my ‘resolutions’ of sorts….

So often we try to add something new without ridding ourselves of the old first….these are my ‘insteads’.

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Instead of filling it up…. empty it out.

Instead of accumulating… destash

Instead of panicking… pray

Instead of talking… listen

Instead of leading… follow

Instead of

“Me” choose “You”

Instead of

“too busy” choose “I’ll make room for you”

When you find yourself saying

“I need it”, ask “who could use it more?”

When you find yourself saying

“I’m important”, remember to live as though there are no levels…

Instead of

“won’t” choose “should I?”

Instead of doing it the same old way, ask “is there something better?”

Instead of …….? 

What can you fill in for an “Instead of……” for your life in 2010?

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If Money were no Object…..

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what would you do???….just another way of asking “What’s your dream?”

What would you do if money were no object and you didn’t have to ‘work a day job’ to pay the bills?

I’m writing mine up and will be sharing it in the next little while…in the meantime….put your dream into a couple of short sentences and leave it in the comments.

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On being a Fool and a Failure – WWFM

What works for me this week is reading something that helps puts words to my new understanding that POVERTY can mean many things.

Read this book:

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“Our mobile society

encourages competition

and economic aggression

rather than contentment.

Someone who isn’t

climbing the social

ladder is regarded as

a fool and a failure.

We’re taught to climb

to the top of the heap.

What we’re not taught

is that the heap is

a garbage heap”

– Peter Kreeft

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Happy New Year!

This is not your standard New Years’  day post.

That’s probably because I’m not ‘standard issue’.

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I’m an oddball in a standard issue world and that’s OK with me….I roll a little differently and I thought I’d encourage you to do the same.

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Instead of filling it up…. empty it out.

Instead of accumulating… destash

Instead of panicking… pray

Instead of talking… listen

Instead of leading… follow

Instead of

“Me” choose “You”

Instead of

“too busy” choose “I’ll make room for you”

When you find yourself saying

“I need it”, ask “who could use it more?”

When you find yourself saying

“I’m important”, remember to live as though there are no levels…

Instead of

“won’t” choose “should I?”

Instead of doing it the same old way, ask “is there something better?”

Instead of …….?  There are between 80 and 200 people who read this blog every day ( yeah, shocks me too…!) and this is a call to delurk….if you’re reading this entry, it’s time to raise your hand and complete this list….

What can you fill in for an “Instead of……” for your life in 2009? click on the comments below…

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find others who are listing their 2009 resolutions:

http://laurelwreathsreflections.com/years-reflections

http://www.thehappyhousewife.com/

http://theinspiredroom.net/2008/12/31/a-beautiful-life-12-months-of-goals/

Thoughts on what we give away….

It’s the time of year our hearts open up to the idea of giving things away.

We are more likely to share (some of) our money, (some of) our food, (some of) our time during the time of year surrounding Thanksgiving and Christmas.

We feel the empty hollowness of NOT giving, and in some small way, make ourselves feel better by contributing at least something to the spirit of giving.

I want to think a little bit on what we give away….

How many of us stop and buy some extra tins for the food bank bin at our local grocery?

or donate a Saturday afternoon to the local charity gift drive?

or look through our kids old toys and give them away to charity to make room for the new?

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All good, well intentioned acts of giving, no doubt about it.

Most of us have plenty more where that comes from….

What would happen in our lives if we gave until it hurt?  What would happen if we gave away our BEST?

What if, instead of half a dozen tins in the bin, we chose instead to take our weekly grocery budget to buy food for another family, and instead, make do with what is still in our cupboards, fridges and freezers?

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What would we do with our grumbling attitudes, frazzled thinking when we had to get creative  that week instead of just grabbing the easy solution?

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What if, instead of going through our closets and giving away the worn, damaged, or out of date clothing, we walked into our favorite store, bought our favorite item and gave it to someone who REALLY needs it because if they don’t get it, they have nothing else to wear?

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Does it seem like that would be a ‘waste’ of a perfectly good, brand new sweater/shirt/pants/coat?

Why is second hand ‘good enough’ to give away, but brand new is ‘too good’?

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What if instead of taking our family out to a movie, we found a movie in our own stashes that we haven’t watched in awhile, pop some popcorn and hang out at home…..and then take the money that we would have spent on such an evening and give it to a single mom or dad with instructions to treat themselves and their family to a movie night.

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Would we feel like our $50 was well spent?

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Our thinking of what it means to give has got to change.  Our thinking that we are ‘rescuing’ someone with our acts of charity has to change.

Instead, we need to count it a privilege to be able to share.  We need to look for opportunities to put ourselves on level ground and see ourselves as the same.

We are all humanity.

We are one.

**  My challenge to you is to try just one of the ideas I listed, or make up one of your own…where you give away your BEST, instead of second best.  Take really careful note of the ugliness that surfaces in your own thinking as you do this…all the reasons it’s a ‘bad’ idea, or how you could never do it.

The junk that you may have to wade through when it comes to your own internal dialogue, will teach you something incredibly valuable if you can just stick with it.

Your life might just never be the same…

Giving Thanks

We have so many things to be thankful for.  

This has been a good year around our place as we tried to look for satisfaction and blessings without going out and buying them….

We just celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving and as we prepared our table for guests, I hesitated for a moment as I wished I had gone out and purchased some flowers for our table.  Instead, I remembered our pledge to do with what we have, and I grabbed my garden shears and headed for the yard….

Here’s what I came up with…

Just a bunch of branches really….a few sprigs of grass and some pinecones on an old mirror….the silver candlestick holder is something I had bought to sell on etsy, but it turns out it’s not worth all that much…..no matter to me….looks great on MY table!

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Then, we had a bit of good news around the house this week in that my hubby closed a big deal he had been working on for over a year….(!)….  HBI thought it needed some special recognition, so this is the note he has left for his dad to find when he gets home from the gym tonight…

 

I am blessed….

Wading through Small Changes….

My creativity this week has been limited to getting back to basics…in lots of areas.

Stuff and the storage of it.

Food and menu planning.

Planning and practicing meaningful FAMILY time.

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Life just gets so busy/complicated/full that we need to remember to stop every now and again and just reconnect with those parts of our souls that need refreshing.

I’m working on sorting / organizing / wiping out all the cupboards…deciding if we really NEED half of the stuff that’s in them….

I’m looking for ways to get better organized when it comes to food and menu choices so that we can stop throwing away things that have gone bad….

I’m making sure the TV gets less ‘face-time’ than we do with each other….

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So, I haven’t sewn anything, painted anything, glued anything, drawn or written anything this week, but in the still, small, quiet moments I’ve taken it back to remembering the goodness in our lives, being thankful for every provision, and sending love and prayers into the lives of people who I’ve been blessed to have in my life.

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I have a new opportunity looming (read: job) and I am weighing the pros and cons of it. In no way do I want to give up the focus I’ve been able to gain on home and family….anything that takes the balance away from that is not for me…

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